COURTSEY AND MANNERS GO HAND IN HAND

Last night, I phoned my friend, he said, ‘I am busy now. I will call when I will be free.’ On being asked what he is doing, he said, ‘I am watching a movie. And he said that he will message me after two hours.’ I said, ‘sure?’ he said, ‘sure.’ However, I have not got a call or message till writing this blog.

One more incidence. People, often come on g talk to be in touch with each other. One day, I was also online as usual, as I like to chat with my friends, old friends. I wrote to a friend, his is in IIT, ‘ hi ’. And he replied ‘I am busy.’ I replied, ‘okay, take care. Bye.’ He did same 2 -3 times, with same reply, busy. I thought he don’t want to talk to me. He uses to be online most of time. After few day, when I was chatting with another friends, he said the same about him. Moreover, I could manage a smile only.

People often pretend to be busy, and most times for showing off. People should know, in fact they know, no one is too busy or too big to show courtesy. In reality, most of them are busy in what, either in gossiping or watching movies. If you are busy, say him/ her, I am busy and call him/ her after finishing your work. But most of them they do not do this. But even after this, they want to be respected and say you later, hey you are coming busy these days. How cheap they are?

Let me give an example. We often, go to restaurant. Waiter comes, slides plates on the table, and serves food rudely. We finish the food, no matter how much food is delicious but you are still annoyed. Why? Because waiter behaved very rudely. In addition, you felt bad. Even our other friend say, ‘ no one will give him the tip as he did not serve well.’ Now think over it. You ate in a a good restaurant of city, but it don’t matter, what matter is the waiter behavior. Apply this over your life. for a very good personality, it is not necessary whether you are from IIT , NIT or some mediocre college because when you go anywhere and meet the people, you aren’t holding your degree tag in your hand, or it is not written on your forehead. What matters is your behavior. How do you response when a person come and talk to you? Many talented and people have destroyed their success because they lack courtesy and manners. Courtesy and manners makes you cultured.

“Rudeness is the weak man’s imitations of strength’ Eric Hoffer.

All we want is to be respected. In addition, for that we have to give respect to others. We should practice courtesy. Courtesy can be a ‘warm smile’ and ‘thank you’. It is small investment but payoff big. You might not know but it creates others person self worth.

I came across who punch vulgar joke upon you and when you get hurt, they say, you are my friends and don’t take seriously and it is mere a joke.

‘ When someone blushes with embarrassment , when someone carries away an ache, when something sacred is made to common, when someone’s weakness provides the laughter, when profanity is required to make it funny, when a child is brought to tears or when everyone can’t join in the laughter , it’s poor joke’ Cliff Thomas.

Remember, you fun may kill others feeling. We all often see, small kids throw stone on Frogs for fun, but your fun may take his life. This is not fun for Frogs.
I, practice courtesy as much possible as I can. Some my friend say me, I am boring. I don’t care and i know courteous person always respected, not here, but everywhere else.

Suppose a person talks rudely. What you do? You stop talking. You don’t care for him. Lose respect for him/her. Now, when you talk to people rudely and are discourteous to others. What could you expect? You might expect an amiable behavior. Ask yourself,how? You are closing door by yourself. Now the same the people feel about you.

Remember, being courteous will breed courteous in return. In addition, courteous and mannered person are always respected.