GREAT! GREAT! SHAME! SHAME!

I had decided that I am not going to write anything over the government issues and will restrict my blog only to youth issues. But certain incidents and intense arguments made me to write this blog.

We live in world largest democracy. We have world largest population. Our country is the greatest country in the world. Now, we have largest poors population. Our country has largest sum of black money. Our country is on the way to become the most corrupted country. Our country has largest number of hungry people. Whatever it is, we are the greatest.

I, recently, was reading an article on democracy. In that article, Alexis de Tocqueville, the great nineteenth century writer on democracy, made a point that the age of democracy would, in his view, be an unheroic age. Because democracy principles do not encourages heroes. So true! Everyone has equal rights to serve country but with a little difference. Here one thing becomes very common. Everyone wants to do something greater than previous one. And here in India, emerging economic superpower has established super thieves who blithely rob their own country. we have examples of corruption began from Rs 35000 crores, then Aadarsh society scam, then 2 G spectrum, 1, 73,000 crores. Good shows by our ministers. Oh! I am sorry. Because of our country, India is the greatest country in the world. We should proud of our country. And I am so sure that this type of statement will surely come from the person sitting on couch, in an air conditioned room, eating either pizza or burger.

The BBC quoted this report in a story on May 18 in which one of its correspondents, Jill McGivering, said: “Attempts by the Indian government to combat poverty are not working, according to the World Bank. The governing coalition spends billions of dollars – more than 2 per cent of its gross domestic product [GDP] – on helping the poor. But a new World Bank report says aid programmes are beset by corruption, bad administration and underpayments. As an example, the report cites the issue of grain distribution: only 40 per cent of grain meant for the poor reaches them. India's coalition government is spending massively on programmes to reduce poverty. This was the first time India's major schemes had been evaluated. The World Bank says the public distribution system, which takes almost half the money, has brought limited benefits. It gives subsidized food and other goods to the poor. The report says one landmark scheme, launched more than five years ago, aims to guarantee government work for the rural unemployed. But the World Bank found that it was failing to have an impact in the poorest states because of underpayments and bad administration.”

The above paragraph is from Frontline, issue 12: June 04-17 2011.

In India, if you have power and money, then you are everything. On June 4th, whatever happened in the Ramlila maidan, Delhi, is an absolute blot on the Indian democracy. It was a replica of Jallainwala Bagh Massacre. Beating sleeping people is clearly showing that government has lost its sense. The government has police force for this demonic act, but they do not have force to protect the lives of policemen or common people in Chhattisgarh. I can surely say this type of government action would never happened on crowd consisted of elite people. But when the common man came out, everything turned against him. Shame! Shame! Shame!
Talking to judiciary system, we have already spent Rs 26 crores in protection of Kasab and the case has not been solved yet. But if it would be same common man, either he will be killed or hanged. The talented people are able to decide whether someone is guilty or not. I think it’s an open insult of their talent.

Recently, IIT JEE results were out. Indeed, it was the moment of anxiety for those who appeared this year but hard work always pays. The one thing that surprised me was the statement from the top rank holder. He said that he wants to do UPSC as to become an IAS officer is his ultimate goal after IIT. I just want to ask, If your ultimate goal is UPSC, then why IIT? Please leave your seat for someone else who really wants to become an engineer through IIT.

I don’t know where our greatness is. When there is no greatness, then why should we keep shouting that we are the greatest? I think time has come for to accept the fact, rather than making false excuses, and keep ourselves in illusion.

LOVE, LIFE AND RELATIONSHIP - 2

“Do you believe in distant relationship? I mean, when you are in relationship, your beloved is in other place, is it possible to carry relationship till you both get reunited with same passion, same love and feelings?” was a question from my friend to me when one evening he visited me. I could answer “yes” but I stopped and asked a question to him, “why are you asking so?” Without any hesitation, he continued, “well, what have I seen in college campus and heard a lot from my friends too. In fact, one of my friends suffered same. I mean, when someone love each other and get separated unfortunately, what happens that lead finally into break up?” I didn’t know why it happened to me, though usually it never happens, I smiled with a great deal, thanks that I prevented myself bursting into laughter and said in a jocular tone, “now, who want to spend 50 paisa per minute call when you can talk without spending a penny (after one time recharge, may of 50 or 100) from break of dawn till night?” In fact, you might know that RIM, how much costly their coupons are for free STD? Rs 750. OMG!!!! Okay, tell me when you want some stuff in college campus, will you go to nearest city to buy it?” without a delay, he responded, no. Exactly, this much what I could say when I saw his serious face, without a streak of smile. I understood what he was thinking. Time to become serious. I stopped laughing and thought for a while and then elucidated him, “listen, It was also enigmatic to me that how that flowery adolescence those two juveniles develops love during either school time or college time, what happens that after one or two years, one them get crashed on hearing that his/her partner is with somebody else or relationships shatters. How, I mean how and why it happens? How love shifts? How sweet feelings turn into bitter? And why only a few couples could carry relationship till it destinations? I was blank over this but now, I can say something about this. It mayn’t be correct in every aspect because I don’t know everything. You know, Distance is a dangerous thing. It changes everything, every emotion, every feeling. People always want to live in his/her comfort zone. You are comfortable with me, you are talking to me, when you don’t, and you will not talk to me. What I have observed that when two separates, lots of things affect their relationship. I can’t list all the possibility but few I can say. One thing, I must tell you that not, all but most of today’s relationship are established on a weak bases. And you can easily that the fate of a building constructed on a weak base?

“it collapse within few year,” he said.

Exactly, I said and continued. Loss of understanding is the biggest problem. As they separate, their capability to understand each other also widens. And it leads to loss of trust. Trust the base of every relationship. A body without a soul is same as a relationship without trust. When trust fades, suspicion grows; the biggest evil of any relationship. You can’t pull a thread as much as you want because how long you pull, it get weakens on each pull, and finally it breaks, its elasticity gets over. And the relationship that both had nurtured with their honest and true feelings, those dreams they see together shatters. It is common reason that I have seen. And few pathetic ones think that he/she are there, why should not I do some fun here? And both start cheating each to other and finally end in nothing.

“you mean, you are saying there is nothing called distant relationship?” he asked.

“ I never said so. Till 1950, reaching on moon was impossible but not now. So, I think nothing is impossible. If it is a case of distant relationship, I can say that understanding is the most important. Trust your partner till end. Always think of precious, lovely you have spent together and just think of future, a lovely, blissful life you both are about to spend together.”

“If he/ she cheats????”

“Then also good. Because at the end, you will get most perfect partner or a good lesson. And you will replace me in this blog and somebody else will take your place.” And I started smiling with a great deal. He started laughing.

A THOUGHFUL EVENING

A few days back, it was dusk when ephemeral orange of sky on the other horizon was wriggling into dark; I was lying on bed tired and frazzled. My roommate was out of room, might be for a cup of tea and snacks. After sometime, the closed door just opened and pair of eyes looked at me. I noticed and sat down on the bed. He was one of my friends came to meet me. He slowly came into room smiling and sat on the bed. I reciprocated the same. Till now, I shifted to my chair kept beside my bed. I love to sit on chair and talk to anyone and asked cheerfully “how are you?” he replied genially. After few chit chat, he asked a question. It was not expected such type of question. He said, “Sanjeev, I want to ask you one thing that I also have some interest. I know you are quite good at understanding human behavior, in prediction what is going on someone’s mind. How do you do this in such fickle world?”

I was little surprised because I never felt that I am good at understanding human behavior. Though I am a Samaritan, I counsel lots of people personally, by emails etc. then only I came to know lot about different behavior, problems and devoted myself to give them best solution to their problems. To my surprise, I got good results and people living their life joyfully. I am happy to see this.

But when he asked such question, I grew puzzled and sank into deep thought. I became silent and looked considerate. Lots of things were going on inside my mind because according to me, understanding human behavior, there is no any formula. Since I didn’t want to disappoint him, after few minutes, finally I looked at him. It seemed that his eyes were looking for answers. Finally, I spoke to him, “your words too kind to me. Thank for you that. I don’t know to put this but I think understanding behavior, three things are there. Observe carefully; listen intently and speak meticulously. When someone comes to me and speak to me, I use to observe his/her precisely. His/her tones, gestures, body languages. I try to drown myself into his/her anxiety, pain, listen words intently. Then I speak choosing words carefully, effectively. Anyway, it also took me two years to come to this level but I think I still work hard to do it more effectively.”

Till now, he sat crossed legged on bed and took pillow. Then suddenly, I smiled and said, “Let me tell one perfect example. You take pillow because this makes you comfortable. This is how I come to know what is going inside anyone’s mind.”

I felt good when I saw a glaze of satisfaction his face. He smiled more and said “a perfect example of pragmatism.” I smiled at his kind word again and came out of room.

“Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier."

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LOVE, LIFE AND RELATIONSHIPS

Few days back, one of my old friends sent me a message that quite intrigued me which I also felt sometime, so I decided to write this blog. The message reads:

This generation boys and girls get into love because of misunderstanding… and break up when they start understanding each other….

Quite true! We, boys, observe our increased heart beats on seeing girls, the most lovely and enigmatic creature at age between 17-20 years. We become suave, highly elegant in every field, whether it is dressing sense, behavior, and subtle rhythm of talk, everything we change, which is never our original identity, to impress the girl. In fact girls like this, so we do this. For example, if I wear a plain shirt, pants with simple hair style, not a single girl is going to look at me. That’s true! We make them laugh, do all those things which we never wish or think like wishing birthday exactly at stroke of 12, giving a expensive gift because she will like it, love it and give me the value and understand me that how much we care for them and how much we have love for them. BUT that’s not true. We do this because we want a girlfriend, with big eyes, delicate face, black eyebrows angled like a seagull wings with dark shiny black hairs. We don’t deny the fact that we only do this for girlfriend though some of us really become innocent, sweet, and intelligent after seeing a girl and changed themselves for rest of life.

When we, boys, come in new avatar to impress or girls come to impress boys, they get into so called love. Why? Because of only this upper coating of misunderstanding. . But most of us when get into love, in the following days, Instead of strengthen our love, it weakens because we both couldn’t act longer and our true personality start coming out. Instead of passing I love you, we start stating that you have changed, no more like before, elegant, sweet, lovely, handsome, beautiful and innocent. You don’t care for me, don’t love like before, and don’t talk till late night, no more gifts. This is because we misjudged our opposite partners. When it comes to come out of illusions which get formed due to misunderstanding, and to understand our need, necessity, and others factor to make the same relationship happier and purposeful, we expect the same dreams and lies. We start blaming each other and instead of making the dreams, a lovely relationship shatters because of disparity in misunderstanding and reality.

My only opinion of this whole is that love is the most beautiful feeling of the world. It cares for two hearts, and fills both hearts with zeal of happiness. When things get around, don’t blame each other because it’s the perfect time to understand our partners. Everything is fickle, emotions, boyfriend attitude, and girlfriend’s nature. Please don’t think that my love has changed because before thinking this, think of situation that is constantly changing and no one can’t act same in the entire situation. The only thing is to understand situation, care for other’s feelings, need and condition. Don’t look for the other relationship. It’s really pathetic and heart wrenching!!!!!!