A THOUGHFUL EVENING

A few days back, it was dusk when ephemeral orange of sky on the other horizon was wriggling into dark; I was lying on bed tired and frazzled. My roommate was out of room, might be for a cup of tea and snacks. After sometime, the closed door just opened and pair of eyes looked at me. I noticed and sat down on the bed. He was one of my friends came to meet me. He slowly came into room smiling and sat on the bed. I reciprocated the same. Till now, I shifted to my chair kept beside my bed. I love to sit on chair and talk to anyone and asked cheerfully “how are you?” he replied genially. After few chit chat, he asked a question. It was not expected such type of question. He said, “Sanjeev, I want to ask you one thing that I also have some interest. I know you are quite good at understanding human behavior, in prediction what is going on someone’s mind. How do you do this in such fickle world?”

I was little surprised because I never felt that I am good at understanding human behavior. Though I am a Samaritan, I counsel lots of people personally, by emails etc. then only I came to know lot about different behavior, problems and devoted myself to give them best solution to their problems. To my surprise, I got good results and people living their life joyfully. I am happy to see this.

But when he asked such question, I grew puzzled and sank into deep thought. I became silent and looked considerate. Lots of things were going on inside my mind because according to me, understanding human behavior, there is no any formula. Since I didn’t want to disappoint him, after few minutes, finally I looked at him. It seemed that his eyes were looking for answers. Finally, I spoke to him, “your words too kind to me. Thank for you that. I don’t know to put this but I think understanding behavior, three things are there. Observe carefully; listen intently and speak meticulously. When someone comes to me and speak to me, I use to observe his/her precisely. His/her tones, gestures, body languages. I try to drown myself into his/her anxiety, pain, listen words intently. Then I speak choosing words carefully, effectively. Anyway, it also took me two years to come to this level but I think I still work hard to do it more effectively.”

Till now, he sat crossed legged on bed and took pillow. Then suddenly, I smiled and said, “Let me tell one perfect example. You take pillow because this makes you comfortable. This is how I come to know what is going inside anyone’s mind.”

I felt good when I saw a glaze of satisfaction his face. He smiled more and said “a perfect example of pragmatism.” I smiled at his kind word again and came out of room.

“Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier."

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