A few days back, it was dusk when ephemeral orange of sky on the other horizon was wriggling into dark; I was lying on bed tired and frazzled. My roommate was out of room, might be for a cup of tea and snacks. After sometime, the closed door just opened and pair of eyes looked at me. I noticed and sat down on the bed. He was one of my friends came to meet me. He slowly came into room smiling and sat on the bed. I reciprocated the same. Till now, I shifted to my chair kept beside my bed. I love to sit on chair and talk to anyone and asked cheerfully “how are you?” he replied genially. After few chit chat, he asked a question. It was not expected such type of question. He said, “Sanjeev, I want to ask you one thing that I also have some interest. I know you are quite good at understanding human behavior, in prediction what is going on someone’s mind. How do you do this in such fickle world?”
I was little surprised because I never felt that I am good at understanding human behavior. Though I am a Samaritan, I counsel lots of people personally, by emails etc. then only I came to know lot about different behavior, problems and devoted myself to give them best solution to their problems. To my surprise, I got good results and people living their life joyfully. I am happy to see this.
But when he asked such question, I grew puzzled and sank into deep thought. I became silent and looked considerate. Lots of things were going on inside my mind because according to me, understanding human behavior, there is no any formula. Since I didn’t want to disappoint him, after few minutes, finally I looked at him. It seemed that his eyes were looking for answers. Finally, I spoke to him, “your words too kind to me. Thank for you that. I don’t know to put this but I think understanding behavior, three things are there. Observe carefully; listen intently and speak meticulously. When someone comes to me and speak to me, I use to observe his/her precisely. His/her tones, gestures, body languages. I try to drown myself into his/her anxiety, pain, listen words intently. Then I speak choosing words carefully, effectively. Anyway, it also took me two years to come to this level but I think I still work hard to do it more effectively.”
Till now, he sat crossed legged on bed and took pillow. Then suddenly, I smiled and said, “Let me tell one perfect example. You take pillow because this makes you comfortable. This is how I come to know what is going inside anyone’s mind.”
I felt good when I saw a glaze of satisfaction his face. He smiled more and said “a perfect example of pragmatism.” I smiled at his kind word again and came out of room.
“Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier."
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Friday, April 1, 2011
Tuesday, November 9, 2010
LOVE, LIFE AND RELATIONSHIPS
Few days back, one of my old friends sent me a message that quite intrigued me which I also felt sometime, so I decided to write this blog. The message reads:
This generation boys and girls get into love because of misunderstanding… and break up when they start understanding each other….
Quite true! We, boys, observe our increased heart beats on seeing girls, the most lovely and enigmatic creature at age between 17-20 years. We become suave, highly elegant in every field, whether it is dressing sense, behavior, and subtle rhythm of talk, everything we change, which is never our original identity, to impress the girl. In fact girls like this, so we do this. For example, if I wear a plain shirt, pants with simple hair style, not a single girl is going to look at me. That’s true! We make them laugh, do all those things which we never wish or think like wishing birthday exactly at stroke of 12, giving a expensive gift because she will like it, love it and give me the value and understand me that how much we care for them and how much we have love for them. BUT that’s not true. We do this because we want a girlfriend, with big eyes, delicate face, black eyebrows angled like a seagull wings with dark shiny black hairs. We don’t deny the fact that we only do this for girlfriend though some of us really become innocent, sweet, and intelligent after seeing a girl and changed themselves for rest of life.
When we, boys, come in new avatar to impress or girls come to impress boys, they get into so called love. Why? Because of only this upper coating of misunderstanding. . But most of us when get into love, in the following days, Instead of strengthen our love, it weakens because we both couldn’t act longer and our true personality start coming out. Instead of passing I love you, we start stating that you have changed, no more like before, elegant, sweet, lovely, handsome, beautiful and innocent. You don’t care for me, don’t love like before, and don’t talk till late night, no more gifts. This is because we misjudged our opposite partners. When it comes to come out of illusions which get formed due to misunderstanding, and to understand our need, necessity, and others factor to make the same relationship happier and purposeful, we expect the same dreams and lies. We start blaming each other and instead of making the dreams, a lovely relationship shatters because of disparity in misunderstanding and reality.
My only opinion of this whole is that love is the most beautiful feeling of the world. It cares for two hearts, and fills both hearts with zeal of happiness. When things get around, don’t blame each other because it’s the perfect time to understand our partners. Everything is fickle, emotions, boyfriend attitude, and girlfriend’s nature. Please don’t think that my love has changed because before thinking this, think of situation that is constantly changing and no one can’t act same in the entire situation. The only thing is to understand situation, care for other’s feelings, need and condition. Don’t look for the other relationship. It’s really pathetic and heart wrenching!!!!!!
This generation boys and girls get into love because of misunderstanding… and break up when they start understanding each other….
Quite true! We, boys, observe our increased heart beats on seeing girls, the most lovely and enigmatic creature at age between 17-20 years. We become suave, highly elegant in every field, whether it is dressing sense, behavior, and subtle rhythm of talk, everything we change, which is never our original identity, to impress the girl. In fact girls like this, so we do this. For example, if I wear a plain shirt, pants with simple hair style, not a single girl is going to look at me. That’s true! We make them laugh, do all those things which we never wish or think like wishing birthday exactly at stroke of 12, giving a expensive gift because she will like it, love it and give me the value and understand me that how much we care for them and how much we have love for them. BUT that’s not true. We do this because we want a girlfriend, with big eyes, delicate face, black eyebrows angled like a seagull wings with dark shiny black hairs. We don’t deny the fact that we only do this for girlfriend though some of us really become innocent, sweet, and intelligent after seeing a girl and changed themselves for rest of life.
When we, boys, come in new avatar to impress or girls come to impress boys, they get into so called love. Why? Because of only this upper coating of misunderstanding. . But most of us when get into love, in the following days, Instead of strengthen our love, it weakens because we both couldn’t act longer and our true personality start coming out. Instead of passing I love you, we start stating that you have changed, no more like before, elegant, sweet, lovely, handsome, beautiful and innocent. You don’t care for me, don’t love like before, and don’t talk till late night, no more gifts. This is because we misjudged our opposite partners. When it comes to come out of illusions which get formed due to misunderstanding, and to understand our need, necessity, and others factor to make the same relationship happier and purposeful, we expect the same dreams and lies. We start blaming each other and instead of making the dreams, a lovely relationship shatters because of disparity in misunderstanding and reality.
My only opinion of this whole is that love is the most beautiful feeling of the world. It cares for two hearts, and fills both hearts with zeal of happiness. When things get around, don’t blame each other because it’s the perfect time to understand our partners. Everything is fickle, emotions, boyfriend attitude, and girlfriend’s nature. Please don’t think that my love has changed because before thinking this, think of situation that is constantly changing and no one can’t act same in the entire situation. The only thing is to understand situation, care for other’s feelings, need and condition. Don’t look for the other relationship. It’s really pathetic and heart wrenching!!!!!!
Wednesday, October 20, 2010
AN ODYSSEY TO HAPPINESS
It was around 11 pm when I went to roof of hostel and was around 11:45 pm when I began writing this blog.
i was standing alone in the darkest part of roof, with one leg was on the parapet, listening the soft music of Taylor swift "you belong with me", and had a bowl full of Maggie in my hand , I was looking somewhere distant in the sky. Where? Why? I didn't even know. But I was looking constantly into sky, looking at myriad of blinking stars. Soon, the music player stopped playing with a peep sound and then I realized my presence and asked a normal question to myself, 'what are you doing sanjeev here?' thinking! Is it so? Then why mind is so steady?' realizing this, I felt little bothered. I realized that at that moment, my mind was empty which I never liked. I like thinking so I always go to roof and think deeply about my past, my present and my future. I think about my passion, my family and my surroundings. It gives me a clear idea of my life, my ideas towards life which relieves me. I began thinking. It seemed very awkward writing this that I began thinking. Thinking is a natural thing. Aah! And to my surprise, my mind picked a very unusual thing. "am i going to get 45 marks out 50 tomorrow in LIC subject?" then my mind swayed to new thoughts. "Was I able to respond properly to my entire friend who looked for my help? Was I able to give the best opinion of their solutions?" it again swayed to new thought which bothered me lot. "Am I going to crack CAT?" Soon, a lots of thoughts crawled in mind, a negative thoughts enough to weaken me and little after, I drowned into gloominess.
Now, I had two options: first, I could go down and sleep to remove layer of frustration which surrounded me. Other, i could fight back to my idea and prove myself that whatever I was thinking was wrong.
I jerked and scolded myself for my stupid thinking, walked the little and laughed moderately because laughing gives me energy and make me feel better. I said to something to myself and challenged myself. "Sanjeev, go and sleep. Better idea for you. Your mind has been corrupted and dull like others. If you are smart enough, then fight back!" I always liked challenges and laughed at myself more. Then I positioned myself in a better position and closed my mind for a while and began thinking from beginning. "This is not what you wished! You think what you want in your life.' listen to inner voice and realized what it is saying. I concentrated and restored myself to listen. 'It was saying you are going to get more than 45 in LIC. It was saying you gave your best opinion to your friend. It was saying you will do what you wish." I rejoiced with a new energy. AAH! Maggie over. It was to Time go down.
It is easy to lose yourself in labyrinth of negative thoughts and tough to walk into narrow road of positive thoughts but once you enter into that narrow path of thoughts, soon you will begin to realize that this path is wider, straight, and full of happiness and energy which I always feel. Great happiness lies in realizing dreams. so do whatever keeps you happy, don't care of how silly it is? sing, dance, laugh, study, do whatever which make you smile. say loudly it's my life and i love my life which is full of dreams, happiness and laughs!
i was standing alone in the darkest part of roof, with one leg was on the parapet, listening the soft music of Taylor swift "you belong with me", and had a bowl full of Maggie in my hand , I was looking somewhere distant in the sky. Where? Why? I didn't even know. But I was looking constantly into sky, looking at myriad of blinking stars. Soon, the music player stopped playing with a peep sound and then I realized my presence and asked a normal question to myself, 'what are you doing sanjeev here?' thinking! Is it so? Then why mind is so steady?' realizing this, I felt little bothered. I realized that at that moment, my mind was empty which I never liked. I like thinking so I always go to roof and think deeply about my past, my present and my future. I think about my passion, my family and my surroundings. It gives me a clear idea of my life, my ideas towards life which relieves me. I began thinking. It seemed very awkward writing this that I began thinking. Thinking is a natural thing. Aah! And to my surprise, my mind picked a very unusual thing. "am i going to get 45 marks out 50 tomorrow in LIC subject?" then my mind swayed to new thoughts. "Was I able to respond properly to my entire friend who looked for my help? Was I able to give the best opinion of their solutions?" it again swayed to new thought which bothered me lot. "Am I going to crack CAT?" Soon, a lots of thoughts crawled in mind, a negative thoughts enough to weaken me and little after, I drowned into gloominess.
Now, I had two options: first, I could go down and sleep to remove layer of frustration which surrounded me. Other, i could fight back to my idea and prove myself that whatever I was thinking was wrong.
I jerked and scolded myself for my stupid thinking, walked the little and laughed moderately because laughing gives me energy and make me feel better. I said to something to myself and challenged myself. "Sanjeev, go and sleep. Better idea for you. Your mind has been corrupted and dull like others. If you are smart enough, then fight back!" I always liked challenges and laughed at myself more. Then I positioned myself in a better position and closed my mind for a while and began thinking from beginning. "This is not what you wished! You think what you want in your life.' listen to inner voice and realized what it is saying. I concentrated and restored myself to listen. 'It was saying you are going to get more than 45 in LIC. It was saying you gave your best opinion to your friend. It was saying you will do what you wish." I rejoiced with a new energy. AAH! Maggie over. It was to Time go down.
It is easy to lose yourself in labyrinth of negative thoughts and tough to walk into narrow road of positive thoughts but once you enter into that narrow path of thoughts, soon you will begin to realize that this path is wider, straight, and full of happiness and energy which I always feel. Great happiness lies in realizing dreams. so do whatever keeps you happy, don't care of how silly it is? sing, dance, laugh, study, do whatever which make you smile. say loudly it's my life and i love my life which is full of dreams, happiness and laughs!
Saturday, October 16, 2010
HAPPY TO HELP YOU!
This blog that I am writing because of only one thing which was in my mind for months that I don’t even know.
We are living a life, most fickle and enigmatic thing. It gets tangled whenever we try to correct it resulting in frustration and anger. And after that everything, one by one thing start going against our wish and we break down, emotionally, mentally and physically that leads to aimless and hopeless life which we never intend. Every one of us has a dream which we wish to accomplish but some one of us don’t realize that dream. Why? Problems. Different types of problems which come to across in day to day life. Once Albert Einstein said, “If you don’t face any problems, it means you have not done anything.” I like this and experienced it. So I am writing this blog. There are three types of people in this world. First, one who know what to achieve and how to achieve their dreams and achieve dreams in spite of any problems. Second, one who know his dream and in fact, they act but problems lead them to failure. Third, one never cares for their problems and dreams. I care for second category of people. Let me tell me share one incidence. One year back, I was in a trouble which led me into deep frustrations. I was not able to see my future. I was shattered living a life full of agony. It looked that everything had been destroyed. One thing which I could to see was my aim for life. But I didn’t know at that time how I was going to do this. I might have done something in my life good so that I found a friend who helped me lot. His suggestions, his words removed the layer of illusion which had covered me and he took out me into new world where I saw my way to ambition, where I realized how to achieve my dreams. His support gave me new aspect to live my life and boost my confidence. Now, I am leaving a purposeful life.
That’s correct! We are enshrouded with lots of problems. Problem could be anything like financial problems, family problems, study problems, love problems and many more. We are teenager and for the first time, in this time, our hearts beat for opposite sex. Some are lucky that their love life longs last and but others shatters emotionally after break up and forget that there is another life even after this and lead to very miserable life which they never dream off. Financial problems also make our lead to frustrations. In other words, any types of problem lead to new horizon, horizon of failure. I never wish that what I suffered or I did mistakes in my life, others do the same. I was being helped by someone that realized me that what would happen if I couldn’t get my friend at time what the other thinks same at time of problems.
To help others is one of the noblest works of this world. We all know that we are not born with same fate. That’s why we live different life. In the last few months, I encountered so many problems of my friends and I dealt each problem diligently. My entire friend thanked for my help. But I don’t think that I did something great. I was simply doing what a normal and good person should do. It give me an immense pleasure. I believe that we are most intelligent animal of this world and we must help each other to make this world happier and lovely. When my friends thanked for my help, then I thought to stretch my arm for others. Hello friends, I would like to hear from you and love to help you in the best possible ways. Please help me to assist you. Contact me: sanjeev.ranjan91@gmail.com. Share your problems to me And I will come back to you soon to encourage you and will help you to realize your dream, to explore happiness. I will feel great pleasure for this. thanks.
We are living a life, most fickle and enigmatic thing. It gets tangled whenever we try to correct it resulting in frustration and anger. And after that everything, one by one thing start going against our wish and we break down, emotionally, mentally and physically that leads to aimless and hopeless life which we never intend. Every one of us has a dream which we wish to accomplish but some one of us don’t realize that dream. Why? Problems. Different types of problems which come to across in day to day life. Once Albert Einstein said, “If you don’t face any problems, it means you have not done anything.” I like this and experienced it. So I am writing this blog. There are three types of people in this world. First, one who know what to achieve and how to achieve their dreams and achieve dreams in spite of any problems. Second, one who know his dream and in fact, they act but problems lead them to failure. Third, one never cares for their problems and dreams. I care for second category of people. Let me tell me share one incidence. One year back, I was in a trouble which led me into deep frustrations. I was not able to see my future. I was shattered living a life full of agony. It looked that everything had been destroyed. One thing which I could to see was my aim for life. But I didn’t know at that time how I was going to do this. I might have done something in my life good so that I found a friend who helped me lot. His suggestions, his words removed the layer of illusion which had covered me and he took out me into new world where I saw my way to ambition, where I realized how to achieve my dreams. His support gave me new aspect to live my life and boost my confidence. Now, I am leaving a purposeful life.
That’s correct! We are enshrouded with lots of problems. Problem could be anything like financial problems, family problems, study problems, love problems and many more. We are teenager and for the first time, in this time, our hearts beat for opposite sex. Some are lucky that their love life longs last and but others shatters emotionally after break up and forget that there is another life even after this and lead to very miserable life which they never dream off. Financial problems also make our lead to frustrations. In other words, any types of problem lead to new horizon, horizon of failure. I never wish that what I suffered or I did mistakes in my life, others do the same. I was being helped by someone that realized me that what would happen if I couldn’t get my friend at time what the other thinks same at time of problems.
To help others is one of the noblest works of this world. We all know that we are not born with same fate. That’s why we live different life. In the last few months, I encountered so many problems of my friends and I dealt each problem diligently. My entire friend thanked for my help. But I don’t think that I did something great. I was simply doing what a normal and good person should do. It give me an immense pleasure. I believe that we are most intelligent animal of this world and we must help each other to make this world happier and lovely. When my friends thanked for my help, then I thought to stretch my arm for others. Hello friends, I would like to hear from you and love to help you in the best possible ways. Please help me to assist you. Contact me: sanjeev.ranjan91@gmail.com. Share your problems to me And I will come back to you soon to encourage you and will help you to realize your dream, to explore happiness. I will feel great pleasure for this. thanks.
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