HUM - TUM

Long ago, God made this world and took some rest. Then God made boys, he became so happy, so he took some more rest. Then he did the greatest mistake and he made girls and after that neither the God could take rest neither we - the boys. In addition, the world was divided into two groups, HUM means boys, and TUM means girls – a famous dialogue from the Bollywood movie HUM TUM.

Last year, I visited Bokaro for two reasons. First and most important, I had to collect my passing certificate and the security money, and to meet my old friends, friends of greatest ever in term of fun, 12 C. we were in touch through g talk or by phone. As per plan, I went and collected the document in the morning but i couldn’t get the money; I told all of them to meet in the noon, as I had to catch the train at about 8: pm. They all planned for a get- together party but unfortunately only six of us could manage to come and gathered in the city park of the city, four boys and two girls. We all got engaged in the some college stuff like, whether anyone has a girlfriend or not? How many proposals did we get? I also got a comment that I had build up my body, some biceps. I noticed myself when I heard this. Really, people are getting blind day by day. After this stupid and funny stuff, we ordered Chowmin, as we came in a restaurant situated amid of the park. I was sitting in front of a girl. the Order came. So, either of us had to serve the Chow min, I offered her to serve but she insisted me to do this. I didn’t say anything, as I always feel shy in front a girl, more than a girl would , In fact I uttered only 10 -30 words during the whole so called party. I made to slip down the Chow min into her plate and paused for a moment, ‘It would be less,’ I thought, so , I put down some more Chow min on the plate. ‘ Sanjeev, it s too much. I don’t want to be fat. You know how oily this is? How would you know? You are a boy.’ She blurted out, it seemed as though her boyfriend fled away with my girlfriend. I was amazed, moreover you can say, bemused over what she means by ‘You are boy, you wouldn’t understand.’ It means she is a girl and girls have some natural power to measure oil contents in any food stuff, even they could stop eating plain rice in the name of fat and calories. Health doctor must consult to this type of naturally gifted girl. I am still confused on what I did, which made her to blurt that, it seemed that I did some unavoidable mistake, and I deserved a punishment. After this, we finished our lunch; the Demon i mean the waiter came with the bill and sledded. All giggles, jocular tone, jokes stopped suddenly. This time Newton’s third law was proved, equal and opposite reaction law. Giggle turned into silence and in amazed look and all we knew what our eyes and strained face wanted to convey, ‘WHO WILL PAY THE BILL?’ One of my friends already on seeing the bill told that he hadn’t a single buck. Three of us squinted. A boy sitting beside me whispered in my ear,’ why should only we pay? Why not girls?’ A good question of why do boys have to empty their pockets for years. Why do we always suffer from these problems, a major threat to boys, bigger than global warning, because in global warming, all of us would die but in this only we, the boys are dying. All the authority all over world should conduct a meeting over this instead of global warming, surprisingly even China will not protest over this topic. At last, the three of us paid the bill.

Personally i think that this should be stopped. When it comes to give a seat in the train, bus or when it comes to stand in the queue whether it is ticket reservation counter or Mec donald burger counter, the rule says me first. However, when it comes to pay the money then, the same rule turns upside down and says ‘you first’. All rules say conditions apply. Even here, But this wrong. I still couldn’t understand how ladies first system fails when it comes to pay money. On this, I spoke to my friends ( two girl friends , ohh, don’t go on the apparent meaning of this word, I mean to say a friend who is girl). One of them supported my point and said that she always offers money at least of her share whether it is restaurant or anything. Thanks to her...... something is better than nothing. the Other friend refused. She said that this is universally accepted. Therefore, the boy will pay the money and on the other hand, it is unmannered to ask money from a girl.

Is it unmannered to ask money from a girl? In addition, it is mannered to empty down the wallet of a boy, even he is spending money of his parent like her. My point is that in this age, we all live on our parent’s money, and parents send money to both of us, so, it is unmannered to say only to boys to spend money. The mannerism comes when we all share the money. It will look unmannered when a boy has a job, earns money, and expects money from the other side. I think the he could pay the whole bill or whatever.

BE A BETTER PERSON

We are hold together by, according to me, an unbreakable bond of love, affection, and care. A relationship where we judge the people through their behaviour, thoughts, and idea towards life BUT............

We meet different people throughout of our life. I met different people as I moved from small town to mediocre town to metro city, came across people of different mentality, culture, their idea towards life, towards others, and experienced a lot of things and willing to see more. I noticed one thing, very unusual and my mind brimmed with amazement. I was surprised with some people’s behaviour and their idea. People make pre-conception about you and look for an impertinent questions like from where do you live? Which brand’s cloth you wear? Whether you have car or not? If you have, then which company? Moreover, then categorised you in their bizarre defined group and behave accordingly. If you are affluent, drive a nice car, they will talk to you nicely, flatter you, and invite you in every party. Concerning the area of girl, Most of the girl, beautiful or good looking use this as a weapon, irrespective of character, mentality come closer to you, expect you to pay money everywhere, an expansive gift. If you belong to middle class family, the people make a distance from you, try to avoid you, ignore you. Once, I came to know about a girl who ditched her boyfriend because she knew that he is not affluent irrespective how nice he is. How cheap they are who pretends this. This is sheer idiocy and shows a total lack of self esteem. I, often heard,’ hey look, ‘he wears LEE jeans, he must be rich. Even after this, they say, ‘I belong to rich family, live in advanced society and modern mentality. They don’t they are the real poor people. Most of our societies are wrapped with these non sensual things and make a stupid way to judge the people, which show nothing except lack of self esteem. Apart from this, I even met persons with full of self esteem. I met a person who is affluent but never show and is a better person. I admire such person.

People often proud the things, which are temporary. Men over his wealth and girls over her beauty. Surprisingly, both are not ever lasting. Beauty lasts till age of 35 and nothing can be said about the fickle money.

Let me give an example, very common example. In our society, the girl’s parents look for a rich and good natured bridegroom. Rich because so that their daughter could live a comfortable life, good natured because their daughter could live a happy and purposeful life. For a moment think of reversal of this, if a person is not good nature. What will happen? After few months, or a two three year, relationship became burden, full of fights, shouting and results into divorce. Here, money couldn’t do anything. What mattered is the nature, a good person.

According to me, an affluent person with zero moral and social values is equal to big ZERO.

I never say money is not important but the most important is the nature, behavior. A sea always looks great, beautiful but it is river that quenches your thirst.
Sometime, a small people with small income live happily rather than a family with high income. I also read about the person whose income is high enough but living a poor life.

It is the identity of a person how he/she treats others. All great men or women are great human being. First, we all are human being, and then we are rich and poor. Its nature which make us respectable, if you have both then you are admirable.

“ Resolve to be tender with young, compassionate with aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and wrong. Because some times in our life we would have been all of these ourselves.”
- Llyod Shearer- 1986.

COURTSEY AND MANNERS GO HAND IN HAND

Last night, I phoned my friend, he said, ‘I am busy now. I will call when I will be free.’ On being asked what he is doing, he said, ‘I am watching a movie. And he said that he will message me after two hours.’ I said, ‘sure?’ he said, ‘sure.’ However, I have not got a call or message till writing this blog.

One more incidence. People, often come on g talk to be in touch with each other. One day, I was also online as usual, as I like to chat with my friends, old friends. I wrote to a friend, his is in IIT, ‘ hi ’. And he replied ‘I am busy.’ I replied, ‘okay, take care. Bye.’ He did same 2 -3 times, with same reply, busy. I thought he don’t want to talk to me. He uses to be online most of time. After few day, when I was chatting with another friends, he said the same about him. Moreover, I could manage a smile only.

People often pretend to be busy, and most times for showing off. People should know, in fact they know, no one is too busy or too big to show courtesy. In reality, most of them are busy in what, either in gossiping or watching movies. If you are busy, say him/ her, I am busy and call him/ her after finishing your work. But most of them they do not do this. But even after this, they want to be respected and say you later, hey you are coming busy these days. How cheap they are?

Let me give an example. We often, go to restaurant. Waiter comes, slides plates on the table, and serves food rudely. We finish the food, no matter how much food is delicious but you are still annoyed. Why? Because waiter behaved very rudely. In addition, you felt bad. Even our other friend say, ‘ no one will give him the tip as he did not serve well.’ Now think over it. You ate in a a good restaurant of city, but it don’t matter, what matter is the waiter behavior. Apply this over your life. for a very good personality, it is not necessary whether you are from IIT , NIT or some mediocre college because when you go anywhere and meet the people, you aren’t holding your degree tag in your hand, or it is not written on your forehead. What matters is your behavior. How do you response when a person come and talk to you? Many talented and people have destroyed their success because they lack courtesy and manners. Courtesy and manners makes you cultured.

“Rudeness is the weak man’s imitations of strength’ Eric Hoffer.

All we want is to be respected. In addition, for that we have to give respect to others. We should practice courtesy. Courtesy can be a ‘warm smile’ and ‘thank you’. It is small investment but payoff big. You might not know but it creates others person self worth.

I came across who punch vulgar joke upon you and when you get hurt, they say, you are my friends and don’t take seriously and it is mere a joke.

‘ When someone blushes with embarrassment , when someone carries away an ache, when something sacred is made to common, when someone’s weakness provides the laughter, when profanity is required to make it funny, when a child is brought to tears or when everyone can’t join in the laughter , it’s poor joke’ Cliff Thomas.

Remember, you fun may kill others feeling. We all often see, small kids throw stone on Frogs for fun, but your fun may take his life. This is not fun for Frogs.
I, practice courtesy as much possible as I can. Some my friend say me, I am boring. I don’t care and i know courteous person always respected, not here, but everywhere else.

Suppose a person talks rudely. What you do? You stop talking. You don’t care for him. Lose respect for him/her. Now, when you talk to people rudely and are discourteous to others. What could you expect? You might expect an amiable behavior. Ask yourself,how? You are closing door by yourself. Now the same the people feel about you.

Remember, being courteous will breed courteous in return. In addition, courteous and mannered person are always respected.